Have you ever prepared something towards this person, even though you're not really that close, but you did your best to prepare something on his/her birthday, to surprise him/her but the feedback you get is something not good? Like he/she is thankful for the efforts you've done but for him/her it's already too late so it's just a waste.

I have just recently. I honestly don't want to blog it but I think I might share since I can't move on. Although this person didn't directly say those comments towards me, someone did and that person can't take it either so she had to tell me because she find it unfair. I would like to understand this person situation but what about me then?



I was assigned to handle for the March events (birthdays, team lunch out, gifts etc) Anything that will happen for the month of March is assigned to me and I have a partner as well but I don't know, she doesn't cooperate that I have to ask somebody or else we'll end up doing nothing. Tsk!

So the first was to take care for the birthday celebrants. There are 2 birthday celebrants. March 2 and March 17. I decided to go make them a birthday video presentation. I actually wanted to adapt the birthday tradition from my previous company because I find it really special and funny.

Apparently I just did what I usually do before from my previous company. Get random pictures, get a video message from their special someone, buy a cake and gifts. I decided to present the birthday videos 1 week late from the first celebrant and 1 week advance from the second celebrant. I find this fair enough so no one gets jealous if you get what I mean.

So to cut the story short, last Thursday we presented the birthday video after their meeting. We just barge in like an ambush thingy and play the video. I'm quite satisfied with their reactions specially for the two celebrants. Well, that's what I thought but it's not.

This person apparently shared her thoughts regarding the surprise thingy. She shared it to my other partner and the other birthday celebrant. Here's the thing she said (translated it in English)

Thanks for the effort friend, but I didn't knew I have a new birthday. It's just that I didn't feel it anymore so it's just a waste since it's already passed my birthday but I really appreciate the effort. Also, we have done something like this before so I'm not surprised anymore.

THAT COMMENT. I honestly find it really annoying right after the Thanks for the effort. Yes, she sure was disappointed and the thank you wasn't really felt there. It sounds sarcastic after everything. I AM PISSED OFF.

So I didn't get a chance to explain myself since the comment wasn't directly said to me but to other person. So let me understand everything and do my resolve.

I know the feeling of showing it on the day of your "real" birthday. I know that special feeling you're talking to and I'm sorry, my bad I wasn't able to deliver that on time. I wasn't informed that I should take note of giving surprises on the day of your birthday. I wasn't. I was just new here by almost 6 months so I never knew so I'll be careful next time BUT--- the thing here is, this event is not just for you. I never thought you're only thinking about yourself not the whole situation.

• First of all, it's not just you, there's someone else birthday. Would it be more unfair to that person if I presented on your "real" birth date while not to the other one? I took this into deep consideration thinking it would be fair to both of you. I never thought you would feel like this is only to yourself. You're selfish then.


• I believe in the quote "BETTER LATE THAN NEVER" which usually applies to "belated" thingy. Look, my point here is, whichever dates of your birth month you receive gifts or celebrate it, IT WILL NEVER BE A FVCKING WASTE! People sometimes adjust their dates to celebrate it. That's what I did. So I'm guessing you've never done that? You're always on the date? So after your birthday, it's done. No one else should be bothered anymore?


• So it's seems to me you're expecting something new or something unique to be done on your special day. So that means I cannot repeat the same shit you did before just so you can be surprise? Well, thank you. I'll take note of that.

I am sorry, I really sounded annoyed but I just have to release it XDD Anyways, I've learned something after this and never again. I am still thankful I was warned with this and I should never do it again, specially to this person. Like feeling so special. I don't know. You should just keep that to yourself anyway but thanks for letting me know. Really. Because Never Again.

Thanks for reading my first rant of the year. I feel so refreshed XD Will not be posting this to any social medias except twitter XD LOL!

• Am I wrong?


• Have you experience something like this?


• What's the better way to do if you experience this?

Thanks for your answers! :D